I'm just now getting around to finishing up with this. This is a follow-up to my previous long emo post of earlier this month.
He and I have talked a bit since all this and I'm still unsure as to where his head is at... He actually texted me (4 days after he left) to tell me that he now hates me, but then took it back about a week and a half later. Now he just seems to think that his actions, while unfortunate, were nothing extreme or anything that he needs to take responsibility for. I let him know that I deserve an apology and that in MY world relationships demand honesty and communication or else they are meaningless. He felt that he told me about his decision quick enough by "his standards"... I told him that I didn't share that view and that Chas and I should have heard about it BEFORE he even came to a decision, because when you are in a relationship with someone, then you are all a part of the process together. Apparently this is a foreign concept to him. WTF?!?
I honestly hope that his life is a good one, and one that is preferably lived far, far away from me. No... I'm actually not bitter. I'm just done. Maybe if he takes responsibility then we can at least be friendly (I won't close the door on that possibility... I believe that people can change) but I'm not holding my breath. ;)
Thanks to all who offered me support when I needed it. Much love and hugs to all.
Life is actually pretty damned good right now...
3 comments:
You're definitely better off:)
Glad you're feeling a bit better. Just read the first "emo" post, and I'm sorry you had to endure all of that. Hopefully he'll have learned some lessons from you guys and live better in the future, although he doesn't seem to be moving forward along a straight path in any case.
Hiya Storm. I read the first post and now this one. You and Chas are far more mature in relationships than a good portion of people. Many people do not see the ending of a relationship as a discussion matter so much as an event. I'm so sorry you had to deal with all of that. I can imagine it must have felt pretty awful to get that text message - well the first, he's leaving and then the hating you one. Lots of love energy your way. It's really awesome of you to wish so much kindness for him. You're a good person and I hope you find yourself surrounded by more good people in the future. And I'm sorry I missed the first post because I think you needed the kind words more then than now. Take care!
Post a Comment