Last Sunday, Daniel and I embarked on our trip to Disneyland, an adventure that I had hoped would be a bonding experience for the both of us. I drove like a bat out of hell and made it there in 5 ½ hours! Yay, me! J We listened to a lot of good music that he had gathered specifically for this trip, and also to spoken word by David Sedaris, who if you haven’t yet had the pleasure you should run right out and buy a CD today! Dress Your Family in Corduroy and Denim and Me Talk Pretty One Day were both real treats! Hilarious!
Upon entering the park we were disturbed to find out that the Haunted Mansion was closed for refurbishment, as well as several other attractions. I was peeved as they never mentioned anything of the sort when I booked my trip though Disneyland.com. I was trying to let it all go, but when ride after ride was closed I got pissed and finally complained at their City Hall. Upon returning I see that they do indeed list on their website which attractions are closed at what times, although you need to go searching for it. They don’t make it all that easy for the average customer trying to book a vacation. Kinda jerk-like, if you ask me.
But everything else was mostly good. Daniel and I got along quite nicely, with maybe one small exception of snarkiness that was resolved pretty quickly and to my satisfaction. We got to go on a lot of rides… got our picture taken together a couple of times, and saw some good shows. All in all a great trip for the both of us.
Things started to get shaky immediately afterwards, however, as certain inconsistencies began to feed insecurity and confusion. I wont go into the details here, but suffice to say that Chas and I were starting to think that perhaps this relationship trinity was not going to work out for us, as we both are quite certain of the direction that our hearts are leading us, and Daniel—being a newcomer to even the idea of a poly relationship—is being far more cautious (something that I think is quite logical given the circumstances, but it still doesn’t feel very good). But whatever… I’m a big boy. I can handle it.
After 2 days of crying, not sleeping, and depression, (which included a magically coincidental meeting upon the streets of San Francisco during one of Chas’ and my ultra-rare trips out) we were able to come together to talk things out and have all agreed to work it through and see where it leads us. I am encouraged by his willingness to continue especially since this is such an unconventional situation and that it has already caused him some stress because of it.
In order to change our mood, after our talk we decided to go out and see A Dirty Shame, the new movie by John Waters. OMIGODS it was fucking hilarious. Tracy Ullman is great, as is Johnny Knoxville (of Jackass fame) who plays his part perfectly while looking sexy all the while. If you are not a neuter then go and see it and enjoy yourself… and if you are… well, go and see it and learn something. J
So, now I am just getting caught up on business stuff… Chas and I are planning a trip out tonight, maybe dancing in the City. I’m looking forward to it. It’s been forever since we’ve gone out dancing just the two of us, especially since we started taking care of his mom, although we have just recently discovered that we can probably go out for a few hours after she goes to bed at night as in the year-and-a-half that we have cared for her she has never gotten up in the middle of the night. So I’ll go and just keep my fingers crossed. It’s not like we’ll be out all night anyway.
Moving right along…
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You could look over , , and ; they might have topics that help. (If nothing else, they let you know that people have faced similar situations & come through them without crashing the relationships.)
Most of what they talk about won't be too useful; you're not doing the "swingin' poly scene" thing. But plenty of people on those communities are in long-term, multi-directional relationships, and some of them might have insights that help you through the bumpy parts... or help you realize, "well gee, at least we're not as fucked up as those people."
(Most of the poly-related posts are good ones, or real questions that make you think. But sometimes, you wind up wanting to say, "Just dump the bitch already!")
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